Talks with Babaji - Desire and Anger

Desire and anger disturb the natural state of the mind. To keep the mind stable in desire and anger, that is enduring. Samvedhana - contact with an object; bhavana - the object was in the past, now only its thought is coming; vasana - the thought of the object is creating a desire to obtain it; kalana - the deep imprint of the desire exists in the mind causing pain. Mind originally is pure. When it contacts an object, then it starts thinking to have it. That way desire develops and brings pain.

We talked about removing the object of desire from thought. The first thing to do is to remove the thought of the object that the mind desires. It seems that first there is an impulse, the general waves or the wanting to desire, the tendency to desire that is in us.

Bhavana. The thought of an object is a memory of experience we had gained in the past. One who had never tasted meat dish will have no thought of it because there is no memory of experience.

When I try to remove the thought from my mind, sometimes I can catch it and put it outside, but sometimes it gets in through the back door somehow and it becomes more than just a mental thing and I cannot take it and collect it into a particle any more and put it outside the mind. It’s too big. It’s hard to remove the thought when the mind is attached to the desired object. As long as attachment exists, the mind will create different ways to set it. The Gita commentary said, “In a state of fear, desire and anger are not seen in a person.” Could you talk more about fear and how it relates to desire, anger and attachment?

Desire => anger => violence and fear. When the desire for an object is obstructed, it gives rise to anger. Where there is anger, there is fear also. Anger is a defense mechanism to defend the frightened ego.

In verse 23, Krishna says “one who is able to endure while still here in this world, before casting off this body, before casting off the impulse of desire and anger is a yogi, is a happy man.” Would you comment?

When ego, attachment and desires don’t rule a person’s life. Human beings know happiness only when desires are fulfilled and experience anger when desires are obstructed. So it is very hard to imagine happiness without any desire and anger. In verse 24, Krishna says “happiness within.” It means the Self-experienced in its real nature: Sat-chit-ananda.

Desire and anger can appear in various levels. The more one advances in spiritual life, the more the desires get subtle. They are not known to others, but the practitioner can see them. A high yogi can be attached to possessions, but outwardly it is not seen as attachment. Desire for power, fame, etc. can be very subtle.

We try to be mindful of our speech and actions to reduce negative karma, yet it is often through the hurtful actions of others that we learn our greatest lessons and really develop compassion. Why then does the person who was the greatest teacher attract negative karma to themselves for that action?

Someone harms us and we learn from it. The reason is the senses always contact the outer world. They can’t contact our own mental state. The mind gets involved deeply with the senses and it understands the harm that is experienced outwardly. So from our childhood to the death of the body, first knowledge is achieved from the outer world. In the case of spiritual people who are engaged in self-development, they learn differently. They reflect on their own ego, attachment and desires, and think that the outer world is only a reflection of their inner emotion. In high beings, the effect of negative karma is seen, like Mahatma Gandhi, who preached non-violence, was shot and killed. It is a war between positive and negative forces. Sometimes negative force gets too strong.

I went to a camp last week with other young people my age and there was talking and dancing, etc. I was interested in talking and relating with them, and increasing my social circle, and at the same time, I was reading one of your books so there was a kind of duality. How do I maintain relations with people and friends who are dealing with mundane things and still remain thinking about God?

We have two lives: internal, which is only for ourselves and external, which is social. We live in both. If we don’t unite them, then there is no problem. You have your spiritual life, but you do many other things. There is no conflict if you do other things that are supportive of your spiritual life. If you do something like hunting, it is not supportive and there is conflict. When you play, talk, sing, with your friends, if it is not harming your spiritual life, you are not separate from God.

When someone comes to live in an ashram and they want to control their desires, the ashram supports that desire to reduce desires. In the tribal situation, one is forced to control them against one’s will.

Common people walk on the footsteps of elder people. In a spiritual community, if the elders are honestly trying to remove their negative qualities, then the new people who come in the community follow them. In a tribe, there is one leader who controls and sets his/her own rules. Those rules may not be acceptable to some tribal members but they have to accept them out of fear.